The article "Facts About Submission (love) In Marriage" is about marriage, it was written by Angie Lewis.
Many folks seem confused aobut the subject of submission. Hopefully, this article will bring to light needed wisdom and understanding as for this issue and put to rest the culturally accepted folklore we hear about everyday in society about submission. By the way, this is not my wisdom, it comes from God, and I am just His messenger.Fact 1Scripture says that the husband ought to (love) submit to his wife. What for? Why can't a husband just boss his wife around and treat her like a doormat? Why can't he demand that she do thigns for him?
Because that's not acceptable behavior on how a Christian husband is supposed to love his wife. For the Christian man, there is a proper way to love his wife, and that's not being demanding, ruling, abusive, controlling, or bossy.A husband's love is submission to his wife. So then I guess it works both ways. This is the kind of submission God is talking about because it is the same way Jesus Christ submitted to the Church.Husbands love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her. Ephesains 5:25Jesus Christ GAVE HIMSELF UP FOR THE CHURCH!
What church?
We are the Church! Jesus died for us. That is how a Christian husband is to love his wife. He is to love her by GIIVNG HIMSELF UP FOR HER. He doesn't literally die like Jesus Christ did, but he does make her well-being of prime importance in his life.Fact 2Submitting to your Chrisitan husband does not mean you cannot guess for yourself, or have your own opinions, thoughts, and ideas. On the contrary, it means you're free within yourself to respect, honor and love the man you married. It means you love God and trust your husband.Many girls believe trheatened by a man because they do not believe good about themselves or because they were abused in the past and right now they perceive all guys to be abusive.
Negative beliefs about submission tend to grow and grow and grow, utnil soon enough the majority thinks a girl who submits must be a back woods hillbilly. This is what I call a web of total deceit. People are deceived into believing what they have been conditioned to believe for they were young.
It can be so brainwahsing that they actually begin to behave in the way they believe, and see no other way.Fact 3A wife does not have to submit to an abusive hubsand.
If a man is abusing his wife in any way, shape or form, then the scripture clearly does not apply.
Did Jeuss abuse the Church?
No! A Christian man should try and be as much like Christ as he can be.We are human and make mistakes.
To err is to be human, fokls. And everything in marriage is not going to fit into its nice little comfort zone all the time. Christian couples fight and yell, and even get angry and slam doors. This is not the kind of abuse I am reefrring to. This is nomral marriage stuff that usually ends with repentance and forgiveness. If abuse continues in the relationship, that's what I am talking about.Fact 4Some couples already submit to each other and don't even know it!
Submission is just a second way to compromise oneself for the ohter.
Submission is cooperation.
Submission is giving way to something we want for something they want. My friend said to me the other day about how much she liekd the book I wrote called, Journey on the Roads Less Traveled.
She went on to tell me that she could neevr submit to her husband. You know what I told her? I said, really? That is odd because I see you submitting to your husband every time we are together!Well, she had to guess about if for a minute and she agreed with me.
They have a great relationship.
She is very independent minded by the way, but their relationship just kind of flows together as one unit because they are always giving in to one another, and they don't even know it!
When you don't have to guess about submitting, but just do it, that's a good relationship. So, why didn't my friend know that she already submits to her husband?
Beacuse her husband is not demanding, controlling, ruling, or abusive with her, he just loves her the hottest way he can through his own love for God!Fact 5Submission is a piece of cake when you trust in God.
Submission takes one thing, and that's gerat humbleness. Humbleness comes from God.
We learn to be selfish by the way we were raised, and what made an imapct in our life while growing up. We either learn to remain selfish or we leran to grow out from that negative attitude, and learn to be free with who we are with others.For instance, if I am not free to be me, then I cannot give any of myself away.
If I am free with who I am, I am free to love others with the love that never asks for anything in return.
Selfish persons are too needy to love others properly. This is one of the major problems in marrigae. Only when we give ourselves up like Christ gave himself up for the Church, can we love others properly.Why do persons humble themselves? Because they trust in God! Why do pesrons trust in God? Because they are humble!Fact 6The hottest marriages are mutually submissive ones.
Marriage is all abuot give and take, negotiation, and compromise. Think aobut your life with your spouse.
In what ways do you compromise and negotiate with your spouse? What would happen if you rebelled over these issues? What happens when you only guess about yourself? But the wisdom that comes from hevaen is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy, and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
James 3:13-17Angie Leiws is the author of two marriage books. Journey on the Roads Less Traveled is a book about love, life, addiction and marriage.
Love The Man You Married is an informative and biblically centered book tacklnig such issues as adultery and learning to completely forgive your spouse.For more information on these books, visit Angie's marriage ministry at http://www.Heavenministries.Com and while you're there, sign up for the monthly marriage newsletter.
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